The level of success you see in your life is a direct result of your belief system.
I’m not talking about religion or philosophy here. What I mean is your belief in your ability to succeed.
Believing in yourself means having faith in your own capabilities. It means believing that you CAN do something — that it is within your ability. When you believe in yourself, you can overcome self-doubt and have the confidence to take action and get things done.
When you’re drowning in fears, doubts, and self-sabotaging behaviors, success feels out of your grasp. All of the skills, training, and tools in the world won’t change your life.
That’s why I’m offering these powerful steps to overcome the obstacles in the way of your self-confidence.
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1. Work on your strengths (not weaknesses)
Always has a grand vision, big-picture thinking
Notices the little things, detail-oriented
Loves learning and research
Never gives up
Hands on and action oriented
2. Be your own coach
If you don’t believe in yourself, you won’t believe someone who is cheering you on from the sidelines. That’s why a great small business coach leads their clients to success not by cheerleading, but by developing talent.
According to Gallup’s research, great performance is a result of managers who empower employees. Managers who focus on developing talent get outstanding results.
Great coaches, and managers, lead by empowering people to succeed with the right tools, education, and resources to become excellent. They interact with people using approaches like Conversational Intelligence to put people at ease and bring out the best in everyone.
The research shows that positive thinking, goal setting, and performance reviews don’t create results on their own. When you don’t believe you have what it takes, none of those things are a magic bullet.
So how can you take advantage of this knowledge, and coach yourself?
3. Embrace who you are
How can you have faith in yourself when you don’t know who you really are? Or worse, you are trying hard to be someone you’re not.
Self-confidence comes from embracing who you are and what’s important to you. It does not come from being inauthentic or trying to impress people.
Easier said than done.
The pressure to fit in, to “be normal,” is strong, and it starts early. That’s fine if you want to live an unremarkable life. But you’re here, reading this article, because that’s not the life for you. You want something more.
Start by writing down what’s important to you.
You’ll want to do this several times over weeks, or even months. Each time you’ll get closer to uncovering your core values.
This will help you to see through the things you’ve been conditioned to believe in. When you’re finished, you’ll have a list of traits that represent your truest self.
Observe your patterns of thought and behavior
Step out from the expectations of others.
Being authentic feels like a big risk, and you might be afraid of criticism. Remember that your experience of life is about you, and their experience of life is about them.
4. Believe you can and you will
Your belief is the single most powerful tool you have. You can completely change your life just by changing your beliefs.
It’s not wishful thinking — believing something changes the way you see the world and yourself.
You either see possibilities, or insurmountable obstacles.
Which will you choose?
To start believing in yourself, you have to stop believing you are stuck with the skills and abilities you have right now. This is called a fixed mindset, which is a limited thinking pattern that’s fatal to your success.
Instead, start believing you can change. This way of thinking is called a growth mindset. It means that you believe change is possible.
It may be true that you don’t have what it takes to accomplish your goals — right now. But if you believe you can improve, develop, and learn, then you will get there — even when nothing goes right.
- I’m not qualified for anything.
- I don’t know what direction to take.
- I’m not getting anywhere in my life.
- I thought I’d be someone by now.
You will grow.Building identity capital means doing things that add value to who you are. Start investing time and effort in becoming that “someone” you want to be.
I think this advice applies to everyone, even if your 20’s are long gone. In fact, it’s entirely possible to start a new career at 40, and it’s never too late to refine your identity.
If you don’t have confidence in your skills or abilities, even your appearance, get to work improving:
Explore new work or educational opportunities.
Learn new skills, or improve the ones you already have.
Make new connections to uncover new opportunities.
By believing that change is possible, you’ll be consciously choosing ways to grow.
There is nothing stopping you. Whatever your dream is, once you wholeheartedly believe that it’s possible for you, that’s when the adventure truly begins.
5. Be uncomfortable
If what you did today looks a lot like what you did yesterday, and last week, and three years ago — you’re too comfortable. You’re in a pattern and it’s getting you exactly nowhere.
To make real change in your life you have to get uncomfortable. You have to step out of your cozy box and do things differently.
This means making a greater effort and even feeling a bit weird doing things that are out of the ordinary.
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